In many circles, there’s this big myth floating around that grief is some kind of solo mission. That you’re supposed to be strong, pull yourself together, and “get through it” on your own.
But guess what? That’s 💩.
Grief cracks your world open. It’s messy. It’s painful. It changes your brain, your body, your energy, your outlook—everything. And trying to navigate that without support is like trying to hike Everest in flip-flops. Not only is it harder—it’s not sustainable.
🕸️ A web of support gives you places to land.
Let’s define what I mean by a web of support. It’s not just your BFF or your grandma. It’s a network of comfort, validation, help, and hope. And it can be made up of:
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💬 Friends who hold space without trying to fix it
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👩⚕️ Therapists, grief coaches, and support groups
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📚 Books, podcasts, and blog posts that make you feel seen
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✍️ Journals and creative tools to express your pain (Guided Prompt Journal For Grief by Jeanine Peralta)
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🙏 Spiritual guides or rituals that give you a sense of meaning
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🛠️ Practical help—like someone who brings soup or helps with errands
Each part of the web plays a role. Some catch you emotionally. Some physically support you. Some remind you who you are when you forget. And when one part of that web feels shaky, others catch the slack.
💡 You don’t have to know what you need to ask for help.
One of the hardest parts of grief? Not even knowing what you need. You’re overwhelmed, your brain’s foggy, and everything feels like too much.
So here’s your permission slip:
You don’t need to have all the answers to reach out.
You just need to say:
“I don’t know what I need, but I know I can’t do this alone.”
That’s brave. That’s enough. And the right people will meet you there.
🌱 Growth happens in safe spaces.
When you’re held with compassion—without judgment, without pressure—you slowly begin to breathe again. Maybe not deeply, not yet, but enough to start healing.
Your web doesn’t just hold you—it nurtures you.
You begin to grow roots in this new version of your life.
You learn how to remember with love instead of pain.
You learn how to carry your grief with strength instead of silence.
And that only happens in community. In connection.
🧡 Build your web with intention.
If you’re reading this and thinking, “I don’t have that kind of support”—please know, it’s not too late to build it.
Start small.
Reach out to one person who feels safe.
Join a grief support group.
Follow a grief-centered page (like this blog 😉).
Let your people in—even if it’s awkward or clumsy at first.
Your grief deserves a witness.
Your pain deserves space.
You deserve to be held.
Final Thought:
You are not broken. You are grieving. And grief requires community, not isolation.
Let your web grow, thread by thread. Let it hold you when you can’t hold yourself.
Because healing is not about “getting over it.” It’s about learning to live with love and loss side by side. And that’s a journey no one should walk alone.